Happiness is psychology.

 

There were two friends.

 

They both loved to hunt. The two always carried the same gun and hunted. But one was always satisfied and happy with what he got, while the other was always grumbling.

"I don't want the bird to fly away when I try to shoot." Then another friend laughed.

"Then go home and draw a bird on a piece of thick paper. If you target it and shoot it, you'll be successful." A friend who was always grumbling went home, hung a piece of paper with a bird on it, hung it on a tree, and shot several times, but half was hit and half missed. Then the grumbling friend came to the other friend and made excuses.

"I drew the figure of a bird too small, and I couldn't match it because the range was too far."

 

There are many people who do not know the simple truth that it is not because you smile that you are happy, but because you smile and become happy. It is said that I am ready to laugh, but happiness does not come. Happiness doesn't come to you, you have to find it. And the bluebird of happiness isn't in a special place, it's in your heart.

To do that, you need the wisdom to not only look up at the sky without knowing how high it is, but also to see the low places. If you want to be truly joyful and happy, you have to look down. You gain some satisfaction and comfort in your life by comparing yorself to someone who is inferior or in a lower position than you. This is not just for you, but for everyone in the world. So there is a saying that the reason the Creator made the poor is to make others happy.

 

In order to know your own condition and to obtain a standard of judgment, you will make some comparisons with others. However, there are those who compare themselves a lot to others and those who don't. Experimenting with people with distinct traits found interesting results.

People who compare themselves a lot to others are generally more deoressed and unhappy than those who do not compare themselves. A person who compares a lot depends on the happiness of others, whereas a person who doesn't compare is entirely deoendent on their own satisfaction.

Happy people focus on themselves and rarely compare themselves to others. In other words, he knows that comparing his income or status to others doesn't make him feel worse or better. However, unhappy people always feel better when they compare themselves to otehs, and sometimes they feel very bad. In other words, the psychology changes according to the surrounding situation and circumstances through comparison.

 

It is the general psychology of ordinary people that even if I feel good because my salary has gone up at work, when a colleague's salary is higher than mine, the joy disappears and I get angry. However, the reaction to this is also very different from person to person. People who focus more on raising their own paychecks are ultimately happier people.

We constantly compare. I constantly compare myself to groups that I think are similar to me, such as my co-workers, schoolmates, and local residents. If you experience ups and downs every time you do, you are more likely to be unhappy than others. Even if you intentionally look low, there is always the possibility of a strong mood.

 

Acomparison is necessary. But you are happy when you control the emotions that arise when you compare. Sometimes I look back at myself 10 or 20 years ago. It feels good to compare the way I have improved now and the way I have been in the past. It is interesting to compare the appearance of other people 10 years ago with the appearance of the present.

Wisdom is not the difference between learning a lot and not learning a lot. A truly wise person is someone who knows what kind of heart and what kind of conduct is right. Only you can make your happiness. Neither parents, nor friends, nor the bosses of the company. Only you can make you a happy person. Don't look for happiness now, be happy. you are happy enough You are happy if you have time to think of someone who is living in absolute starvation somewhere today, and if you have the time to look up at the sky occasionally.